TRAUMA & TRIGGERS - A Pocket Guide to Healing; Not all trauma looks the same. Some scars scream, others whisper. Both are valid. Both deserve healing.

 Let’s have a soul chat, shall we? 

Trauma. 

It’s a big word, a heavy one. It carries with it all kinds of weight—memories, heartbreak, anger, confusion, even numbness. And here's the thing: trauma looks different on everyone. It's not a one-size-fits-all black hoodie from the clearance rack at Target. 

Some traumas are gut-wrenching and life-shattering. 
Some traumas are subtle but lingering, like a splinter you forgot about until it flares up in a quiet moment. 
And some things… well, some things might just be really difficult life experiences, not true trauma—but they still leave a mark. 

And you know what? All of it matters. 

 

🧠 The Broken Alarm System (and Why You’re Not Broken) 

When we go through hard things—whether a single shocking event or years of low-grade stress—our brain and body learn to stay on high alert. That’s not weakness. That’s biology trying to protect you. 

But sometimes that internal alarm system gets… glitchy. 

🔔 Maybe it goes off when it shouldn't (hello, overreaction to a slammed door). 
😶 Or maybe it doesn’t go off when it should (yep, that numb, freeze-y feeling). 
💥 Either way, it’s exhausting. It’s confusing. And it’s not your fault. 

 

💬 Labels or Lifelines? 

We live in a world where everything has a label now. Anxiety. Depression. ADHD. PTSD. CPTSD. And while labels can help us get the support we need, they can also start to feel like shackles if we cling to them too tightly. 

Here’s a hard truth, offered with love: 

• You are not your trauma. 
  
• You are not your diagnosis. 
  
• You are not broken, weak, lazy, dramatic, or too sensitive. 

You're a human doing their best to navigate life with a few more bumps on your map. 

 

❤️ The Glass Isn’t Just Half Full—It’s Refillable 

It’s not about pretending everything’s sunshine and lavender fields when it’s not. 
It’s about choosing to believe healing is possible—even when the world has knocked you flat. 

We don’t compare trauma here. 
We don’t say, “Well my trauma isn’t as bad, so I shouldn’t complain.” 
Nope. Not today. 

We say: 

• “This was hard.” 

• “It changed me.” 

• “I can learn to live with it—and maybe, eventually, beyond it.” 

You can let it define you. 
You can let it destroy you. 
Or—you can let it strengthen you. (Not overnight. But over time. With help.)  

🛠️ Healing Isn’t a DIY Job—But You Do Have Tools 

Here are a few gentle suggestions for when your nervous system feels like a circus tent on fire: 

• Ground yourself. Touch something soft. Drink cold water. Breathe in for 4, out for 6. 
• Laugh. Watch a ridiculous cat video. Let your belly jiggle. Laughter resets stress hormones. 
• Cry if you need to. It’s not weakness—it’s your body letting go. 
• Therapy. EMDR, CBT, tapping, Reiki—find what works for you. 
• Creative release. Paint it. Write it. Scream into a pillow. Dance it out. 
• Reset. Go somewhere quiet. Sit under a tree. Let nature do its thing. 

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🌱 You Are Not Too Far Gone 

No matter what you’ve been through—whether it was a brutal trauma or a long season of stress—you deserve healing. 
You deserve peace. 
You deserve to look at your reflection and see resilience, not ruin. 

Let’s stop walking on emotional eggshells and start growing something new. 
Not because the past didn’t happen… 
…but because we’re allowed to write a new chapter anyway. 

 

✨ From Surviving to StrongHer 

Here’s the truth nobody tells you when you're knee-deep in your healing: 

Growth from trauma can be a beautiful thing. 
Not because the trauma was beautiful (spoiler: it wasn’t). But because what came after—your strength, your resilience, your ability to recognize and respond—that part? That’s where the magic lives. 

You learn to cope. 
You learn to prepare. 
You build tools, rituals, and a soul-deep sense of self-awareness. 

So if that storm ever rolls back around? 
You’re not powerless this time. 

You're strongHer. 
You're ready. 
You're faster to heal, quicker to recover, and smarter about your boundaries. 

That’s not just recovery. That’s evolution. 
And friend, that’s a beautiful damn thing. 

 

With love, lavender, and just the right amount of sass, 
LiBelle’ Essential Living 💜 
Where healing isn’t linear, but it's always possible.